If someone asks me if I have children or how many I have I make sure to include Marlon and Toby. It is not always easy as those moments can be very awkward and it can stop any conversation. I hate when I get the feeling that people want to quickly walk away from me then or that I am being avoided afterwards by them. It won’t stop me however from mentioning my boys. They are my children whether they are with us here on earth or not.